That’s a question that I hear from a lot of young married men, and it’s a great question to ask. It’s actually a question that all of us need to be asking if we’re husbands and fathers (no matter how old we are). And it’s a great question to ask if you plan to one day be a husband and father. Heck, it’s a question I’m still asking and still trying to figure out. That’s what we begin diving into in this episode.
In this episode, Jason (with the help of Ice Cube) help you understand the importance of routinely checking yourself to make sure you are living in alignment with God’s Word. If you don’t routinely do that, you’re going to wreck yourself.
Jason has come up with 51 questions that he personally uses to routinely check himself …
1. Are you beginning your day with God’s Word and prayer?
2. Throughout your day … are you staying focused on the things of God – on things that truly matter – the eternal?
3. Are you daily enjoying your relationship with your Heavenly Father … worshipping Him, thanking Him, and talking to Him about life, decisions I have to make, and others?
4. Is there an area of your life where you’re choosing to disobey God?
5. Are you thinking more highly of yourself than you ought to think? Are you proud? Arrogant? Cocky? Condescending?
6. Are you giving others the impression that you’re better or godlier than you really are? In other words, are you a hypocrite?
7. Are you consistently putting the interests, desires, and needs of others before your own? With your wife, kids, friends, etc.?
8. Can others trust you to keep things confidential?
9. Can others depend on you to be a man of your word … to actually follow through and do the things you say you’re going to do?
10. Are you striving to share the gospel with lost people?
11. Are you helping to make disciples of Christ?
12. Are you going to bed on time and getting up on time?
13. Are you financially living within your means? Or are you spending more than you’re bringing in?
14. Are you consistently giving a portion of your income to God … to help others need?
15. Are you consistently saving a portion of your income?
16. Are you avoiding debt?
17. Are you tracking your income and spending (personal, business, ministry)?
18. Are any of your financial matters illegal or shady?
19. Are you living simple, content, and thankful … enjoying the things you already have?
20. Are you jealous or envious of someone?
21. Are you bitter, critical, or resentful of someone?
22. Are you whining and complaining about something in your life?
23. Are you short-tempered or argumentative?
24. Are you wasting time throughout your week?
25. Are you staying organized (house, yard, work, ministry, finances)?
26. Are you talking more than you’re listening to others?
27. Are you consistently exercising at least three days per week and consistently making healthy choices with food and drink?
28. Once per week are you taking time to rest, relax, and recharge?
29. Are you regularly laughing and having fun?
30. Are you staying positive and optimistic with your mental self-talk, attitude, words, and vibe that you are transmitting to others?
31. Are you learning from your failures, mistakes, sins, and then nailing them to the cross of Christ and letting them go?
32. Are you staying in good and frequent communication with your wife?
33. Are you respecting, helping, encouraging, affirming, appreciating, and selflessly loving your wife (often)?
34. Are you going on dates with your wife at least once per week?
35. Are you regularly talking with and spending time with your kids? … LOVE is best spelled T.I.M.E.
36. Are you frequently guiding and encouraging your kids to live the right way?
37. Are you daily praying for your kids?
38. Are you intentionally avoiding places and things that might tempt you?
39. Are you bouncing your eyes away from alluring people and images?
40. Are you “edging” in any way with any kind of sexual lust (thoughts, images, etc.)?
41. Is your iPhone restricted and locked-up with a password that you don’t know and Covenant Eyes installed on it and on every other internet device?
42. Are you frequently reviewing your personal purity battle plan and motivation?
43. Are you avoiding boredom and intentionally planning and keeping yourself busy with good things?
44. Are you talking or joking about sexually perverse stuff?
45. Are you avoiding being alone with members of the opposite sex?
46. Are you in any way flirting or doing anything with a member of the opposite sex that you wouldn’t do if your wife was around?
47. Are you keeping up with your daily accountability check-in with JRay?
48. Are you attending your weekly accountability and support group?
49. Are you being completely honest during your weekly accountability and support group?
50. Are you maintaining weekly connection/fellowship with other Christian men who push you to grow in your walk with God (meetings, activities, phone calls, etc.)?
51. Have you answered all of these questions honestly?
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In this episode, Jason tells you the amazing true story of how Def Leppard actually retweeted his tweet on Twitter. It totally changed J’s life – and now he thinks they want him in the band! #TrueStory
More importantly, Jason shares some valuable truth he’s been learning from Pastor Tim Keller about why we actually need pain and suffering in our lives … how it purges-out our weaknesses and imperfections and then builds us into better men!
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In this episode, Jason interviews Dallas “GAR” Bozeman.
Gar was born in Northwest Alabama, but in 2002 his family moved to Katy, TX where he graduated from James E. Taylor High School. Immediately after graduation, he enlisted in the United States Air Force. In 2004, he graduated from the Naval Explosive Ordnance Disposal School. His military career has taken him all over world, serving in Europe, Asia, and the Middle East. Over all, he served four combat tours, one to Iraq, and three to Afghanistan. His military career also allowed him the privilege of working with the 1st Royal Canadian Regiment, Afghan Commandos, and the Combined Joint Special Operations Task Force in Afghanistan.
Unknown to even those closest to him, Gar’s journey wasn’t as it appeared. His years in combat had left him riddled with Post Traumatic Stress and physical injuries. More significant than any of those wounds, Gar was deeply wounded spiritually. The suffering and death that he constantly saw, left him doubting God’s sovereignty and confused him as to where it all fit into God’s bigger picture. He began turning to alcohol and also abusing the pain medication that was prescribed to him for his injuries. He soon found himself hopelessly lost and barely holding on to what remained of his young family.
That’s all I’m going to tell you … you’ve gotta listen to hear the rest of GAR’S incredible story.
I will tell you that he’s been married to his wife Kimberly for over 10 years, and they have three children: Brooks, Isabella, and Brody. His notable recognitions include: The Bronze Star and two Purple Hearts.
My brothers, what you’re about to hear is one of the greatest stories of God’s sovereign protection, mercy, grace, forgiveness, reconciliation, and transformation that I’ve ever heard in my entire life. The first time I heard it, I was in tears (good tears). If you’re needing some hope and encouragement in your faith-journey … hear ya go!
Drops a preview of his upcoming interview with GAR (Dallas Bozeman)!
Talks about the depression/suicide of Linkin Park’s lead singer, Chester Bennington!
Drops 22 Powerful and Precious Promises from God to hang-on if/when you’re walking through the dark, scary, and painful valley of depression!
Deut. 31:8 … “It is the LORD who goes before you. He will be with you; he will not leave you or forsake you. Do not fear or be dismayed.”
Is. 41:10 … “…fear not, for I am with you; be not dismayed, for I am your God; I will strengthen you, I will help you, I will uphold you with my righteous right hand.”
Ps. 40:1-3 … “I waited patiently for the LORD; he inclined to me and heard my cry. He drew me up from the pit of destruction, out of the miry bog, and set my feet upon a rock, making my steps secure. He put a new song in my mouth, a song of praise to our God. Many will see and fear, and put their trust in the LORD.”
Deut. 33:27 … “The eternal God is your refuge, and underneath are the everlasting arms.”
Ps. 34:17 … “The righteous cry out, and the Lord hears them; He delivers them from all their troubles.”
Ps. 3:3 … “But you, LORD, are a shield around me, my glory, the One who lifts my head high.”
2 Sam. 22:29 … “You, LORD, are my lamp; the LORD turns my darkness into light.”
Ps. 42:11 … “Why, my soul, are you downcast? Why so disturbed within me? Put your hope in God, for I will yet praise him, my Savior and my God.”
Ps. 31:22, 24 … “In my alarm I said, “I am cut off from your sight!” Yet you heard my cry for mercy when I called to you for help. …Be strong and take heart, all you who hope in the LORD.”
Is. 40:31 … “…but those who hope in the LORD will renew their strength. They will soar on wings like eagles; they will run and not grow weary, they will walk and not be faint.”
Ps. 143:7-9 … “Answer me quickly, LORD; my spirit fails. Do not hide your face from me or I will be like those who go down to the pit. Let the morning bring me word of your unfailing love, for I have put my trust in you. Show me the way I should go, for to you I entrust my life. Rescue me from my enemies, LORD, for I hide myself in you.”
Jn. 16:33 … “I have told you these things, so that in me you may have peace. In this world you will have trouble. But take heart! I have overcome the world.”
Ps. 145:14 … “The LORD upholds all who fall and lifts up all who are bowed down.”
2 Cor. 1:3-4 … “Praise be to the God and Father of our Lord Jesus Christ, the Father of compassion and the God of all comfort, who comforts us in all our troubles, so that we can comfort those in any trouble with the comfort we ourselves receive from God.”
Ps. 147:3 … “He heals the brokenhearted and binds up their wounds.”
1 Pt. 4:12-13 … “Beloved, do not be surprised at the fiery trial when it comes upon you to test you, as though something strange were happening to you. But rejoice insofar as you share Christ’s sufferings, that you may also rejoice and be glad when his glory is revealed.”
Ps. 34:18-19 … “The LORD is near to the brokenhearted and saves the crushed in spirit. Many are the afflictions of the righteous, but the LORD delivers him out of them all.”
1 Pt. 5:6-7 … “Humble yourselves, therefore, under God’s mighty hand, that he may lift you up in due time. Cast all your anxiety on him because he cares for you.”
Ps. 9:9-10 … “The LORD is a refuge for the oppressed, a stronghold in times of trouble. Those who know your name trust in you, for you, LORD, have never forsaken those who seek you.”
Prov. 3:5-6 … “Trust in the Lord with all your heart, and do not rely on your own understanding; think about Him in all your ways, and He will guide you on the right paths.”
Rom. 15:13 … “May the God of hope fill you with all joy and peace as you trust in him, so that you may overflow with hope by the power of the Holy Spirit. May the God of hope fill you with all joy and peace as you trust in him, so that you may overflow with hope by the power of the Holy Spirit.”
Rom. 8:38-39 … “For I am sure that neither death nor life, nor angels nor rulers, nor things present nor things to come, nor powers, nor height nor depth, nor anything else in all creation, will be able to separate us from the love of God in Christ Jesus our Lord.”
If your depression is so bad that you’re thinking suicidal thoughts, then today (TODAY!!!), you need to reach out to a trained and licensed Christian counselor or therapist. There’s no shame in that. Jason has been there, done that, and it’s helped him BIGTIME! Here’s a link to find one in your area.
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In this episode, Jason begins offering some helpful solutions to overcome depression. He specifically talks about the importance of Christian men knowing and often restating their new identity in Christ when they’re in the pit of depression.
If you’re a genuine believer in the Lord Jesus Christ, then this is who God says you now are …
#1 … I am unconditionally and eternally loved by my Heavenly Father. There’s nothing I can do to make Him love me more and there’s nothing I have done to make Him love me less. His love is always steadfast.
#19 … I am an alien/stranger/sojourner in this temporal world.
1 Pet. 2:11
#20 … I am salt and light to this lost world.
#21 … I am an ambassador of Christ to this lost world.
2 Cor. 5:20
#22 … I am a warrior/soldier for Christ.
Eph. 6:10-18; 2 Tim. 2:3
If your depression is so bad that you’re thinking suicidal thoughts, then today (TODAY!!!), you need to reach out to a trained and licensed Christian counselor or therapist. There’s no shame in that. Jason has been there and done that and it’s helped him BIGTIME!
If you have any input, feedback, or questions on this topic, you can leave a comment or you can email Jason at Jason@narrowtrail.com
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